As I was on a group call with my friends last night, we talked about a great many things, including how we make assumptions. Sometimes we are making assumptions about other people without getting to know them based on an unfavorable first impression. Sometimes we make assumptions about how people perceive us based on our own insecurities.
I am guilty of both.
To be honest, I find myself having an easier time assuming that someone doesn’t like me rather than assuming they do. Why is it so easy for us to believe the negative about ourselves? My husband can tell me he thinks I’m beautiful a hundred times and I won’t accept it as easily as I would accept a put down from a stranger as truth.
Why? Are we so broken that we can’t see anything positive in ourselves? Is that why we sometimes can’t accept compliments from others graciously?
I am learning that I can accept a compliment without being prideful. I can be proud of my accomplishments without being conceited. I can follow my dreams with ambition and still follow God’s will for my life without boasting or putting my desires before God’s.
I can assume the worst and hope for the best, but that’s not what God wants for us. We can safely assume that, as God’s child, He wants His best for us. He wants us to be successful and use the gifts He has given us. Think about it. Why would He give us talents and abilities that He doesn’t intend for us to use? Isn’t that a waste, for us and for Him?
So, the next time you see a stranger looking at you with an unreadable look on their face, don’t assume they’re sizing you up and finding you lacking. Assume the best. Smile at them. Say hello. If they scowl or act rudely, shrug, say a prayer for them, and move on.
You are a beautiful, one of a kind, unique, passionate, gifted, talented, wonder of the world. Assume your identity in Christ. Assume your position as a child of God.